Is The “Love Between Us” a “Forbidden Love?”
Centuries ago relationships leading to marriage were not common outside of their culture, race, religious persuasion or class. Options depended on family values, social status; life then was never controlled by the passionate connection felt in the hearts of two people who deemed themselves meant for each other. Even today parents can object for the same old reasons, especially when their son or daughter brings someone through the door who doesn’t fit the ideal wife/husband. We have seen the wide practice across all aspects of life.
When you fall deeply in love with someone, you want to share the joy, love and moments with that person, it is in respect that you will pass the message in one way or another to those closest to you, relatives. Naturally, you will want them to embrace your love interest whole-heartedly and to see them through the lens of their hearts, holding him or her in as high of esteem as you do. But, what if your prince or princess looks like a joke to them and they can’t seem to laugh about it. It becomes a hard joke to crack around and whenever a name or an affiliation of them is mentioned faces turn darker. Instead of celebrating your love with passion and smiles, they air their disapproval openly and any effort to appeal or sell the relationship between them is meet with sarcastic laughs and jokes thus deeming the “love between you” as a “forbidden love.”
If you have found yourself confronting your own family’s opposition to your choice in a wife/husband to be, you know how tense interacting with them can be. How to get them to give the two of us a chance? A question that will keep flashing in your head, leaving you with pain killers at hand. A number of people have committed suicide due to this family issues.
Strategic approach in of great importance in solving such issues and the ultimate answers to your issue will depend of it.
You may wonder how to bring your parents into the first world thinking, of “all are humans” but you will to understand how they cannot accept someone who isn’t exactly like them. It would be nice if a squirt of index would do the trick, but the remedy may not be so simple. You may have to coach your love interest a bit about your family legacy and the traditional values your family holds so that can appreciate your family’s cultural perspective. Your family in turn will warm up to them if they feel honored and respected. Your job is to convince your family that apples and oranges can make a great fruit salad
In their eyes you are still a child and they the voice of maturity. They will throw a thousand reasons at you as to why this relationship doesn’t stand a chance and you may decide to arm yourself and battle each argument one by one with enduring efforts like a Spartan . But winning the battle through this way is not a downhill task. You would rather not walk down that road it’s too rocky and bumpy. Some families respond with hysteria, streams of tears and grumblings when family traditions are threatened. Loyalty is expected to the traditional formula for a happy marriage and that usually means if you are Greek you marry a Greek, if Jewish you marry in your faith and never ever mix races. A wiser approach is to penetrate their hearts and give them an opportunity to warm up to the two of you as a couple. Invite your love match home to dinner twice a week and on frequent family play dates for the next month and see if the objections start to fall apart.
Testing the waters would help as well before things get too far between you and your crush, if your parents fall silent every time you start to talk about your love interest, and you are likely meeting covert opposition. They seem to be counting on you to wake up and break up without them having to say a word. But silence can be more punishing than harsh words at times and if they continue on this way you may have to bring up the issue and air it all out for them. Don’t be afraid of confrontations. Tell them their opinions are important to you, if they open up it’s a chance to turn their hearts around.
The harshest of all is threatening to disown you and push you out of their lives forever. If your parents are stubbornly adamant that they will never accept your choice in love, you may need to enlist the help of a level headed third party, someone sympathetic to your situation and whom your parents respect. A religious persona, your favorite aunt or uncle or a friend of the family may be able to help your parents see the light and grant you the right to you own choice in life. Even if your parents aren’t exactly ready to embrace the idea, they can still learn tolerance. In the end, if your love interest is your true divine complement, it is his or her love you will naturally covet. The parental bond is established only for this life, but the soulmate bond is forever.
Be wise when you choose your love, as one of the hardest things in life is letting go off the first love, but it’s harder to keep fighting for your love for the rest of your life.